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There’s a quiet question many women start asking somewhere between their late 30s and 50s:
“Who am I… and what do I actually want?”
From the outside, life might look “fine.”
A career, a family, responsibilities ticked off the list.
But internally, something feels off, like you’ve drifted away from yourself.
If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. And more importantly, you’re not broken.
In a recent podcast episode, I sat down with Diana Pagano, international keynote speaker and author of The More Mindset, to unpack why so many women hit this stage of life feeling lost and how to finally take back control.
What followed was a powerful conversation blending psychology, neuroscience, mindset, and real-life truth.
Why So Many Women Feel Lost in Midlife
For many women, their 20s and early 30s are driven by momentum:
- Build the career
- Build the relationship
- Build the family
- Do what’s expected
But somewhere along the way, life becomes more about maintaining than choosing.
Diana explains that this is often the first time women pause long enough to ask:
- Do I actually want this?
- Is this aligned with who I am now?
- Who am I without the roles I play?
- This isn’t a crisis, it’s an awakening.
The Real Reason Most People Feel Stuck
One of the biggest breakthroughs from this conversation was this:
Most people aren’t stuck because they lack motivation.
They’re stuck because they’re operating from outdated beliefs about who they are.
We don’t create our lives from what we want we create them from what we believe is possible for us.
If deep down you believe:
- “I’m too old to start again”
- “This is just how life is now”
- “I should be grateful and stop wanting more”
Your brain will work tirelessly to prove those beliefs right.
How Your Thoughts and Language Rewire Your Brain
Diana breaks down the neuroscience behind mindset in a way that’s both simple and empowering.
Your brain uses a filtering system called the Reticular Activating System (RAS). Its job is to look for evidence that supports what you already believe.
So when your internal language changes from “I can’t” to “What if I could?” your brain literally starts noticing new opportunities, ideas, and pathways.
This is the science behind:
- Manifestation
- Identity shifts
- Creating new outcomes
It’s not wishful thinking.
It’s neuroplasticity.
Identity, Self-Belief & Why You Attract What You Believe
A powerful theme throughout the episode was identity.
You don’t attract the life you want you attract the life that matches who you believe you are.
When you start backing yourself instead of comparing yourself:
- Your decisions change
- Your boundaries strengthen
- Your standards rise
And slowly, your external world catches up.
Small Daily Habits That Change Everything
Transformation doesn’t require a dramatic life overhaul.
Diana shares simple, practical tools like:
- Becoming aware of your self-talk
- Challenging inherited beliefs
- Regulating your emotional state daily
- Modelling emotional intelligence for your kids
These small shifts compound and over time, they completely change how you experience your life.
How to Know When It’s Time to Choose Yourself
One of the most powerful questions from this episode was:
“What would my life look like if I stopped avoiding the choice I know I need to make?”
Feeling lost is often a sign that you’re being called forward not backwards.
Not to become someone new…
but to return to who you’ve always been underneath the roles, expectations, and noise.
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You’re not behind.
You’re right on time.
And you’re allowed to want more. 🤍
